..Couples that eat together, Stay together..

So this morning instead of going to work I thought I'd go visit the school and then make my way to the Ministry of Education to get those medical form thingies so I can do my medical check up for my visa.. AS USUAL.. me and Ern got lost trying to find where on Earth the stupid counter for the medical forms were and ended up walking all over the MoE building before I finally gave up and had to make my way to my driving lesson (we did parking today btw =) hehe just incase you were wondering.. and if you're not.. you should be =D nothing could be more important than MY life hahaha)..Well, I bumped into Ayu, Reza, Wil Ni and Mukul at school.. so that was quite "eventful" haha since I haven't actually seen anyone in a VERY VERY long time... and no I'm not anti-social.. I am just busy (AYU =P)...

So anyhoo, I'm still waiting for a reply from Warwick Uni. I think I've gone into clearing because I didn't get 36 points.. but c'monnn... ONE point less??? and I got 6 in the important areas like English and Business... So yea I should be hearing from them before or by the 24th.. (AND btw.. Congrats to REZA for getting an offer from Kent..) sigh.. I don't like waiting.. and you know what annoys me? the fact that my dad has been reading whatever mail I get from the uni's, leaving me in the dark as to what I have to do.. sheesh.. one day he has to realise that I'm not a baby anymore (ok, well I guess I am sometimes but you get what I mean!) and that he can't do everything for me anymore... and yea, so I stumbled across this envelope that was sent to me from Warwick giving me preparation stuff for just incase i get accepted and apparently I have a list of recommended books for me to do background reading on before I go.. and I'm like "whhhaaaattt???" I had no idea!!! so now I think I'm gonna ask my dad if I can stop working to try and do some reading... urgh.. oh well.. the plus side on this is that I don't have to go to work anymooooorrreee... the down side is that I have to actually try and read, make notes and understand all this complicated law stuff... ergh... (Note to self: Next time pick something more easier like... teaching! or or... something else.. oh wait.. it's too late for that now... aiyoooo... -_-)

Moving on, moving on.....

I was having this conversation with Ben the other night and we were talking about how long we've stayed together and how we've never actually had a dull moment.. that kinda stuff.. and I said Couples that eat together, stay together... and I think this is very very true.. WHY? well..I was thinking.. generally, when you first get married, or get together... some people tend to put on weight because whenever you go out together you tend to go and eat.. hahaha of course this could simply because there is no other form of entertainment in Brunei besides getting down and dirty somewhere but so what? This is my theory hahahaah... yea anyway back to the matter at hand.. I think it's true.. here's my "scientific" input into the whole thing.. see, when you eat.. you satisfy your hunger and when you're eating something particularly good (like chocolate) your body is probably releasing something like endorphins which make you happy.. hence, a happy relationship (LOL) and well, what could be more fun than eating?? (haha besides that *ahem*) I mean, food doesn't shout at you.. doesn't say mean stuff to you... and it makes you feel good... hahahah but thats straying a teensy bit off topic.. Also things like going out to eat makes sure that you two are together and you get to see each others habits and just spend some time together talking about whatever in a relaxed environment.. Haha I was thinking, during this conversation with Ben, that it is true, that most of the time that we've gone out together when we first started seeing each other as well as a bit after we were sorta steady, that our dates would always be dinner dates.. or lunch dates.. or tea dates... hahaha of course as a professor, I say that this theory is totally true.. or it could be because I'm a fatty and love food hahahaahah... Bear with me.. =p

BUT seriously... in a country such as Brunei.. where people's favourite past times include eating or going to cafe's which are in GREAT abundance here, as well as restaurants... how boring could your relationship potentially be if you just stay home and watch TV? or or.. I don't even know what else there is besides doing that if we're not including food.. and this is ESPECIALLY if you're not the type that likes going out to places like the mall to just go around aimlessly, without a specific reason... Of course you could always go exercising together.. but lets face it.. I bet you'll all go stuff yourselves after ;) (well.. that's probably what I would do... *blush* hahahah) Hmm.. what else could couples do together in Brunei? ......*complete silence*

See? Nothing!! Unless you're married I guess you could put somewhere in there, "making babies" because the people here just love populating the area so they can say they've got a big family and can collect more green and red packets during Chinese New Year and Hari Raya =D

Sigh.. anyway I better get moving and get ready my medical check up and all that.. I think I'll be going this afternoon.. anything to escape work.. I seriously just feel like doing nothing right now.... argh I feel so annoyed now, but at nothing or no one in particular, I just am. I hate this feeling. Anyway maybe I'll post something up later. Laters.

..Awwwwww..

Wow.. 2 posts in one day... woo-hoo you all can call me super woman now... haha I would've saved this post for later, like tomoro since I don't have to go to work because it's a public holiday (everybody say it now "YAYYY!" ugh) and I would've done it at night after gallivanting around Brunei, doing nothing but since I've got time on my hands and I'm somewhere where I can actually get internet.. why not?? Haha..

Anyhoo, there isn't much that I want to say right now but I have the cuuutteesstt picture ever so I thought I'd put it up... but that's for later..let's get straight to the chronicles of my ever boring suffocated life..hehe..

SO, do any of you actually read the Brunei Times? I suggest you do.. because I reckon that it is a HUGE improvement from out other newspapers irregardless of who owns it.. (if you don't know about the gossip surrounding it or what I'm talking about, I'll tell you some other time) The other night I read an article in the Brunei Times with the headling Events show why Brunei is losing on tourism...And that really got my attention.. I was thinking "Criticism? In a newspaper? About Brunei? Wow..." haha I mean, I think we can all safely say that we are in dire need of a reform or atleast some small changes in some of the ways things are done here.. and how else are we supposed to change for the better if some constructive discontent (o0o0o0.. yes, I was a DT student haha) is allowed?? Did you know that currently in Brunei the law system only JUST introduced special laws for punishing minors and juvenile delinquents? That's so embarassing.. For a country so rich, we should not have such backward ways.. whether we are trying to stick to our culture or not.. there are ways around that... *phheewww* I think I should shut up now.. but you get the idea =) anyway for those of you that can, pick up a Brunei Times.. read it.. I reckon that there could be quite a few interesting articles. not to mention better grammar, and writing skills...

Sigh.. you know what makes me sad..? Seeing all the poor dogs on the road..If I had the money, and the support.. I would love to create an animal shelter of some sort..I mean, just because this is a muslim country doesn't mean that we can mistreat animals such as dogs merely because its 'haram' or whatever.. I don't remember learning anything about poisoning or killing dogs because they're 'haram'.. dogs are creatures that are made by God and to me that's all that matters..I don't see why we have to treat certain things differently and vice versa etc etc...anyhoooooo.....at this point I could probably go on and on about my religious views but I don't think I should..not today anyway ;)


o0o0...I just finished reading Nana's post and I'm definitely looking forward to the gathering at Manjaro on the 23rd of this month as well as Naqib's party at the beach on the 26th...OH and for those of you who don't already know, school officially re-opens TOMORRO..anyone for dropping by?? Let me know ya? hehe..oh and Nana darling.. I love you toooo!! I can't believe you actually feel that way about me..I suddenly feel... empowered.. LOL hehe.. anyway you shouldn't feel that way.. you're beeooootiful my bootylicious, bi-sexual chum.. hehe anyway can't wait to see you on the 23rd.. you have A LOT to tell me..and yes,I do realise by now that you are a notorious cheapskate but I love you nevertheless and I sms you usually in hopes that you might actually reply.. haha I won't give up on you! haha...

As always, here is a cuuuuuttteeee picture to light up everyone's day today =)



Let's say it all together now.. AWWWWWWW.... hehe..till later..

..it's just one of those rainy days..

Sigh.. it's been raining like CRAAZZYYY aaanndd guess what? I am sick yet AGAIN.. it's weird because I got sick last weekend and now I'm sick again this weekend, hence the late post. It's stupid! I felt all groggy and stuff and I seriously got a high high fever.. that sucks.. So I just pretty much spent friday afternoon and night lying in bed trying to get my fever to get down and praying that what I had was just a stomach flu and not TSS (toxic shock syndrome - which girls can get from using tampons.. or they can just get it because we're like that.. actually not really, anyone can get TSS but yea, I won't go into the details here.. go google it =) ) So yea, now its Sunday and I'm better thanks to the panadols and lying around at home doing nothing but vegging.. ok, well I wouldn't say nothing.. on Saturday I made sure I managed to drag my butt out of bed so I could go to fratinis to celebrate my awesome mandarin IB results with Ms. Tracey.. Yay! hehe.. it was fun..

OH yea, speaking of which, I reckon we should go visit school once school opens again.. apparently now they have projectors in all the rooms and the intercom works... haha and I doubt they'll be using it to play techno music hahaahahah I will never forget that kacang'd episode lol.. well the one and only episode.. hee hee...

ooo oo! was anyone out on Saturday night???? OMG there was such a HEAVY thunderstorm.. it was almost national geographic material.. posts were falling down... and you could see the wind patterns.. it was crazy.. and we just happened to be sitting outside of chill while it was all happening *drama drama* haha.. but on the serious side, it was really scary.. apparently it was because in Sabah they're having hurricanes right now.. fortunately Brunei just happens to be in a "safe spot" so we don't get tsunamis, hurricanes, typhoons or earth quakes because I THINK we're in the middle of a plate and we're so far in and barriered that by the time any natural disaster comes our way its pretty much settled down and all that...

Apart from that, I watched the movie Click with Adam Sandler, and as with all Happy Madison productions a few of the crew made cameos like Rob Schneider as Prince Habeeboo haha.. but yea, overall it was a good movie.. it's nice if you go watch it with your significant other or for a date.. It's one of those "meaning of life" movies but yea.. it's funny and meaningful.. I actually cried at one point.. haha.. But hey, I cry at a lot of movies.. but I reckon if any of you guys watch it, you just might shed a tear or two as well ;)

I was talking about this with Ben the other night and don't you find it cool how Adam Sandler and Ben Stiller both kinda have their own "gangs"? Hehe like in Adam Sandler movies you always get Rob Schneider, David Spade or the people in Grandma's Boy making cameos.. and in Ben Stiller movies it's always Luke and Owen Wilson, Will Ferrell and Vince Vaughn.. hehe It's pretty cool.. and here's a bit of trivia for you guys.. hehe Did u notice that in all Ben Stiller and Adam Sandler movies they're aways Jewish because they're Jewish in real life? (I think that's pretty cool) oh, and if you've watched the movie Billy Madison starring Adam Sandler, you know how there's this one family which always bullies him and stuff and they're called the O'Doyles.. well in Click they're also a family called the O'Doyles, who are red-heads as well who always bully Adam Sandler as well... hehe it's pretty cool.. but yea, for those who haven't watched Grandma's Boy I suggest you do.. that is one FUUNNNYYY movie.. hehe

But hmm.. what do you think you'd do if you had a universal remote? would you want one in the first place? It's funny how the things that we actually want to miss or speed up might actually be the events in life that we remember most of all and make the most impact in our lives.. and in actual fact, pretty much pass us by quicker than we imagined anyway... Anyhoo, you guys should just go watch the movie if you haven't. =p

That's it for now..here's another comic that I came across.. Enjoy.


Cyanide & Happiness @ Explosm.net

..You think you know..

..I'm in the office and I'm pretty bored.. Just handed in the work that we finished so now I'm waiting for how well we did (or not..haha) and some new assignment(s). So for now I am tooottaalllyy bored and I can't keep on playing text twist for any longer.. my brain doesn't seem to be functioning..Luckily I brought my laptop in so I can listen to my lurvely muscic while being bored.. LOL..

..But you have NO idea..

So how should I start? Well, for those of you who think that lawyers are bad people, or unfeeling people, or mean and nasty people.. you're wrong.. I'm glad that I decided to work in a law firm during my holidays because I really get to see both sides to the story and my conclusion so far is that lawyers aren't the people that are inhuman or unfair - the people that actually HIRE the lawyers are the ones that are mean, greedy, inhuman and unfair.

So in my previous post I mentioned about how we went to do the re-posession of a house? Well, that whole trip really opened my eyes into the way people tend to perceive lawyers and what they do.. What happened was these 2 BROTHERS are always in dispute and the older one wants the younger one to move out of this piece of land that lawfully, belongs to the older brother. So the younger one is given months notice to move out, doesn't make an effor to move out, so upon the ruling of the court and orders of the older brother, we had to go there with the police, court bailifs, and locksmiths to "take-over" the place and change the locks and if they want to move the rest of their stuff out, they make an appointment with the court and the lawyers to then go there and retrieve the rest of their stuff.

So when we got there, it looked like they had moved out.. but upon inspecting the place we found out that their in fact still living there - illegally. And then it got dramatic.. the wife came home.. caused a big hoo-haa about it then made a few calls.. then inevitably the husband came home.. and made an eve bigger hoo-haa over the whole thing.. and what really made me realise the mistake people make when perceiving lawyers is that he came up to one of the lawyers and saying all kinds of things like "you're in human" "inconsiderate" "not compassionate" and I'm there thinking.. it's her job!! She's been ordered by YOUR brother... whether or not she accepted the case is of course up to her, but if she decided to not help her client.. I would say that's pretty incompassionate.. because someone is coming to you for help and to turn them away.. whether they are wrong or right, I would say is in some ways cold-hearted. And true, you do get good lawyers, greedy lawyers and bad lawyers, but it's all up to human characteristics... and that's just it isn't it? A profession doesn't make someone bad, or greedy or inhuman.. it's the PERSON that makes his/her profession however way they want it to be.. and it's the people bringing charges against other people.. it's the family, the friends, the banks WHOEVER... that I really consider to be the inhuman ones. So think again, before making judgements on lawyers.. or police officers.. or anyone else for that matter... I think it would be hard to try and do your job while having someone saying things to you to your face and not being able to do anything about it,.. And yea, sometimes it is the system itself that causes things to be slightly unfair or whatnot,.. but the way I see it is that if you want to change the system, you have to be IN the system.. so yea..

*phew* Anyway I think that will be all for today hehe I'm sooooo tired....!

HAHA anyway, thanks mei for the nice comic site!! hehe I think I will get daily cartoons from there hehe.. Sooo, before I go, here's a comic to brighten up your day..


Cyanide & Happiness @ Explosm.net

..Do I look fat in this?..

Today's been a hard day at work but luckily I managed to finish my work! yay! That means tomorrow I'll get something new =) Speaking of tomorrow.. it's going to be fun fun fun!! We'll be doing this thing with the police where we will have to go to this place and evict someone from it.. because he's staying there illegally.. Ok, I know evicting someone isn't the best thing in the world.. but it's dramatic.. so sue me =p

Ugh.. I'm writing this post up in west street because I can't get ANY internet at home so I've had to resort to going out to go on the internet.. which sucks.. because that means that I'll actually have to PAY for a drink and all that.. haha I'm such a cheapskate..

"..Do I look fat today?"
"Honestly?"
"...yea..."
"Yea, you kinda do....."

Has anyone ever said that to you? In some ways you'll be lucky if someone has, because I've only been told that by two people. My sister, and my one of my oldest and bestest friend. And this got me thinking....
.....when I got home and got ready to go out n stuff, I started thinking about something my parents used to tell me and my siblings.. which was basically that when you get older you should be so lucky to have so many good friends around you.. because in the end, even though you've made a ton of friends in uni and in high school, at the end of the day, you'll only really keep in contact and still be great friends with a handful of people. They say that you'll only ever be able to count the number of REAL friends you have on one hand.. and even at this stage, I've found that to be true. It's funny though that thinking back, even though you would think that I would be hurt that someone actually said that I don't look good in something but, I didn't.. I took it, because I knew that it would come from someone who meant it in a caring way..

To date, I can only really say that I have maybe 2 or people in my life that I can truly say are my REAL REAL friends. This isn't saying that all my friends from school and IB and all that aren't my friends.. but friends that are REAL REAL friends are different. Surprisingly my 2 best friends in the world are guys.. haha okay, maybe the sexuality one of them is debatable (haha sorry ern) but yea...

Ern ern ern ern ern... what could I possibly have to say about Ern? hehe Well, I've known him since PRIMARY ONE.. surprisingly enough he's the only one from St. Andrews that I still keep in contact with regularly and sometimes daily.. He's been there through the good times and the bad.. We've been pissed off with each other, we've fought, he's made me cry all that kind of drama and yet... we're still good friends.. He knows SOOO much about me and my past. He's been with me through all my phases, through most of the guys that I've liked back when I moved to ISB and he was still in St. Andrews...sigh..through all my BAD BAD hairdo's HAHA.. we've both come a long way. Haha it still remains that when I have children he will be the wacky (sexuality debatable) uncle that hangs around LOL... I can always count on him to give me an honest opinion, which I don't always follow but STILL... hehe He's great.

Sigh.. my baby..Ben has known me for 4 years now.. and we've never had a dull moment together.. it's hard to believe that being with the same person for 4 years (even though for some time it was on/off and then we broke up last year for quite a long time...) you don't get bored.. I know I've given him a hard time.. He's the only person I know off (besides Ern) that puts up with my SHIT... my mood swings.. my PMS moments.. times when I've changed as a person,. .he's always been there.. I wouldn't say that during our time together everything was smooth and what not.. it definitely WASN'T.. but you know when you have something good going if even though you go through instances where u definitely think "this is it, it's over" but somehow you manage to fix it. He knows all my bad points, and yet he's always taken the good with the bad when it comes to me. There have been instances when he has really disliked me but it's comforting to know that he loves me nevertheless.. and I feel the same way. I think he knows me the best of all.

Sigh.. sometimes I feel bad that I've given up friends in the past for other things, or just not let a proper friendship happen and gotten to know people better... but I guess... if it was meant to happen, it would have... of course there are people that I'm close to (Nana, Kaka Fidah, Fid, I love you! haha) and to me, they're getting to be my REAL REAL friends soon..This has been quite a melancholy post, but I guess I was feeling a bit emotional (as I often do) and had to let some people know how much they mean to me. I guess the fact that we'll all be leaving soon has really gotten to me.. Because once you're away.. it's good to know that you'll always have someone back home, or somewhere else in the same country that you can go and talk to, or relate to.. because it's hard to create real bonding friendships when people have no idea about your past, or where you're from..unless for some reason or other you just click... But either way, I'm definitely looking forward to making new friends abroad.. without forgetting about all my old friends back home.. I love you guys.. =D

Till later...

..a sense of poise and rationality..

Wow, I just read through everyone's blogs and I am suddenly feeling very depressed..ok, I wouldn't say serious per se but just..pensive I guess..and the reality just sorta hit me that some of us will all be leaving some time next month and not only that... I mean I think that pretty much all of us will agree when we say that the 2 year IB course went by really quickly.. and just thinking bout that reminds me that all of us will probably only be in uni for another, what, 2 or 3 years? add a year or so if you do masters. And that will go by just as quickly as the IB programme. How can we all make sure that in those few years we don't screw up? Or take everything for granted and let things pass by without us noticing it? Sure, time is fleeting and it's sure to pass us by in a flash.. There's nothing we can do about it. All we can do is just enjoy the ride and make sure that everyday we live as though it was our last. Sure, it's easy to say and not to do, but it's like that book I was reading "Tuesdays with Morrie" (see earlier post).

I think I'd like to die somewhat like that, with all my loved ones near by. It sucks how we all wish that we could live life a certain way but our characteristics some how or other just don't let us. It's a struggle. How do you love everyone? Or if not love everyone fully, love some to a certain degree that you can remain patient even though they are annoying the hell out of you?? How do you manage to just sit and listen to someone, listen to their whole story without fighting the urge to butt in with your own problems? In some ways I reckon that people that have contracted fatal illnesses or come across some life-changing event have, in a way, learnt the essence of life. I say this because I reckon that if you've gone through that you realise, there's this life-changing event and yet, everything around you is the same, the Earth hasn't stopped moving just because of this "thing" that's happening to you. You realise that things do not revolve around you, nothing changes simply because of you. YOU change because of the things around you. I think it must be a very humbling experience. (Not that I would exactly want anything like this to happen to me, or to anyone that I love, but I try to learn from people that have experiences such as those; "Tuesdays with Morrie" --> a must read. Haha I'm like advertising this book like there's not tomorrow huh?)

Anyhoo, I think that the above is the type of mentality I'd eventually like to have.

Aaaaannnddd lets stop all this serious thinking and think about FUN things shall we? For those of you who don't know, and missed the message Nana has left, Naqib is celebrating his birthday on the 26th of August at the Beach. Which beach I'm not entirely sure, but if and when I find out, I'll put it up somewhere. Woohoo, another beach outing. Hopefully my lungs will be unclogged and my nose cleared (as well as my throat) so I can enjoy and smoke like a chimney again.. LOL.. Aren't I the healthiest person on Earth? =D Whatelsewhatelsewhatelse... hmmm.. PEOPLE please go ouuuttt! hehe I haven't seen anyone for the past week ( I think). *ahem*NANA!*

Oo and for those of you who are jobless and are bored, haha try this game on Yahoo! Games called text twist! hehe it's a new favourite of mine, and I play it all day at work.. I mean, when I've finished all the tons of work I receive everyday and all that... HAHA... Fid deserves a shout out, for those of you who don't know, he had his driving exam a few days ago.. I have no idea how he did, but hopefully he came out of it alive and ready to drive =)

Well, this is a short post but I have to get back to work and I've been writing this up during my lunch break. Maybe I'll write some more later ya? Later. And as I'd like to get into the habit of doing this for most posts, here is a picture to lighten up your day. Artwork by Reza =)

..the lies, the drinks, the boredom..

So the weekend has come and gone and I STILL stuck with a cold and a sore throat..and to add to that, my voice is really croaky I'm beginning to sound like a frog =( First up, I really want to apologize to my year 11 mates for not making it to the "re-union" but circumstances prevented me from getting there and Mei for not making it to the gathering at her place on Sunday night but when I got home I was so tired I was in bed at around 8:30. So sorry guys..so what happened to me during the weekend you ask? hah...

Well.. lets start with the lies shall we? lol.. well, as everyone probably knew, on Saturday night there was a party at the baze right? And I was gonna go right? WRONG! haha.. See, it's really complicated so it's kinda hard to explain it here.. but lets just say me and my sisters had to make it seem as though we were going there but actually we.. well, more like 'I' just wanted to get out of the house for once so my dad can't bug me and I can stay out the whole night and do whatever I want to do. So I got my own room at the empire with my gift voucher (which I won through this badminton tournament) and my sisters got their own room through our dads membership... and sooo on sunday when we got back.. we had to convince our parents that we were actually there at the party.. to which I think we did a pretty good job of and in the words of Ayeshah: "I even convinced myself" haha.. such schemers we are. But yea, it was an OK weekend.. nothing great.. I can safely say now that I am a CRAPPY cocktail maker LOL.. never make me a bartender and it's just damn boring here.

But yea, I'm back in the office because I felt bad that I was just sitting around at home EVEN THOUGH I'm not exactly feeling well but there's no internet at home either so it's not like there's much to do besides watching tv. I think I'll go home early. blegh. I'm in a bad mood.I'll probably write another post later when I'm feeling better. 'Till then, here's a HOT picture of this years world cup winners, the italian team (well a few of them). Italian people (men and women) are so hot. Dammit! I want to be Italian.. Lets think of a few italian people that are hot. Hm..Monica Belluci.. Gwen Stefani (and don't you DARE say she's "American", Lets face it, the traditional American would be either people with English backgrounds because that's how America became populated or the Red Indian which everyone seemed to conveniently make practically extinct.Anyone else from Europe would be called immigrants who are now American citizens. There's a difference.)Anyhoo lets just get to the pic so I can take a break from typing urgh. Bah.. post later.



Let's say it all together now... YUUMMM... that pic was especially for Nana my horny darling. And oh btw, Nana, Noni's blog is the best..keep it up guys. =)

..the outrage!! and the mojo..

...Aaaannnddd the fever is still ever prominent within me (oo how dramatic LOL) so I am still resting at home.. I thought I'd be able to go to work this morning but I woke up feeling still quite groggy and lousy not to mention having to make *ahem* a few - a several trips to the bathroom this morning *-_-* Maybe I'll try and do some work in the attic this afternoon instead of goin to the office.. atleast I'll be doing some work.. see, I'm not THAT much of a lazy person =D I'm just a sick person =(

And on top of that I am definitely PMS-ing hence, I've been very emotional.. very, VERY, VERY emotional... and you know you're emotional when you start tearing up and pretty much crying when watching Oprah.. OI! they had some really touching stories yesterday... *sniff-sniff* haha ok so I'm feeling quite silly right now but wait a few minutes, I'll probably be all emotional again lol... so.. things have been quite uneventful but I think I've got a few interesting tidbits for you.. ;)

One book, or rather, two books that I think everyone should read are "Tuesday's with Morrie" and "5 People You Meet In Heaven" by Mitch Albom.. I wouldn't say these are 'self-help' kinda books but I think that they are very inspiring and give you a new perspective on life and more importantly the people in your life. Tuesdays with Morrie is basically about Mitch Albom going every Tuesday to see his old, dying college professor and from there, gains this new perspective on life. I haven't finished reading the entire book yet but so far its been pretty good.. here's an excerpt from the book:

"Have I told you about the tension of opposites?" he says.
The tension of opposites?
"Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn't. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted.
"A tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle."
Sounds like a wrestling match, I say.
"A wrestling match." He laughs. "Yes, you could describe life that way."
So which side wins, I ask?
"Which side wins?"
He smiles at me, the crinkled eyes, the crooked teeth.
"Love wins. Love always wins."

*sigh* how touching.. haha well whether I was being emotional or not, I think that this book is very inspiring and eye-opening. After reading.. maybe half of this book I've already realised how much of the time we don't really engage ourselves in human things.. such as spending time with people that we love, so many people nowadays don't give love to give love but in the hopes of getting something back... hardly anybody helps anyone anymore.. so many people are caught up in making money to finance their lives and don't realise that they've wasted their lives away worrying about petty things. Here's another quote:

"Mitch," he said, "the culture doesn't encourage you to think about such things until you're about to die. We're so wrapped up with egotistical things, career, family, having enough money, meeting the mortgage, getting a new car, fixing the radiator when it breaks-we're involved in trillions of little acts just to keep gonig. So we don't get into the habit of standing back and looking at our lives and saying, is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing?"

So there you go.. gives you something to think about seriously huh? I'm now starting to take the time to sorta think about stuff in that way. It's hard, since we're always used to thinking about materialistic things such as those mentioned in the quote.. Even now I'm starting to think of different things that I can do besides possibly being a lawyer as I've kind of realised maybe it's not the right type of career thats suited for me. (and not just because of the whole office thing). But yea, take a minute out of a day to think.... (or, READ THE BOOK, haha find out more...)

Hmmm.. what other life altering things did I learn yesterday? haha... nothing much actually.. I was pretty much just REALLY emotional.. sick.. got my hair done.. =) Hopefully I'll be better by tomoro so I'll be able to party tomorro...

Omg, I just remembered..yesterday on Oprah.. the most bizarre thing happened to this couple... What happened was that this young couple just got married and 2 days later on the way to their honeymoon, the husband got amnesia and forgot EVERYTHING.. he forgot that he was married.. didn't know his wife OR his parents, how sad... poor wife.. and he lost his memory for about a year.. before he finally got it back.. and when it came back.. it just all of a sudden flashed back.. sort of like a movie.... 0o0o0o ... I would hate that to happen to me.. =( hmph... what would you do if you did though? Would you stick with your husband hoping that he'd eventually get his memory back? would you take the risk of being a stranger to him and hoping that he'll fall in love with you again for as long as it takes? and what if he doesn't end up falling in love with you again if he doesn't get his memory back?? ...I wonder what I would do... I'd probably stay with my husband... I think that I'd love him too much to let him go... unless he told me one day that he just doesn't love me... sigghh.. how sad.. hahaha...

Anyhoo, for those of you who don't know, NANA has started up her own blog.. and for the first post she's got a pretty funny pic up. lol.. look her up in the side bar ;) And I think I will go and relax for now... and.. to brighten up everyones day today I will leave you all with a pic.. Enjoy.

..chronicles of the sick..

So...I've been sick since yesterday and i feel lllooouuussssyyyyy.. =( I have a sore throat, a head cold and a slight fever.. allltthooo that hasn't really stopped me from going for my driving lessons =D hehe, nothing is going to stop me from going to my driving lessons.. i MUST get my license before I leave.. my fever is pretty convenient at the same time though because now I don't have to go to work until i get better..

Speaking of work, since I've started working I've kinda realised that I don't think that I can be that type of person that has to go into the office every morning, every day etc etc.... I reckon I would like to do something that involves me interacting with people more often and not in the "good morning my honour/lord" kind of way. One of my biggest dreams has always been to open my own cafe/diner/restaurant type of thing... The way I see it, is that even if I am doing law, it always provides a good base for if I want to do anything else.. plus it doesn't hurt to know the law hehe... but yea.. having to go into a cold office everyday just sucks.. It's taken me about a week to realise that.. I wouldn't mind if I could like take my work to a cafe or home and work from that... just don't keep me in a office the whole day..

The past few days have been somewhat uneventful, resulting in rather boring posts.. lol but yea, I'm just watching tv right now.. and let me just ask you somethin...

..what is up with the trend of being/looking androgynous???..

..I'm just watching Mtv right now.. and this japanese/korean rock band just came on, not bad music but oi! what's up with the look? for a minute there I thought the lead singer was a girl.. but in true androgynous fashion, it turned out to be a guy.. Now, I ask you, what is it with guys and plucking their eyebrows... or having girly longish hairstyles.. and you can't use the argument that its just being metrosexual.. it isn't! metrosexual involves being stylish.. i.e. knowing how to dress, smelling good all that kinda stuff.. it does NOT involve making yourself look like a girl. That is just plain gay. (hint hint ern. My friend ern would like to have plastic surgery on his face just so he could look like this androgynous looking japanese pop star or something haha =p) I mean, if you want long hair, that's fine but it doesn't mean that you have to let yourself end up looking like a girl in the process.. there are ways to make it look macho. And how do/can girls find this appealing????! TELL ME... because as much as I'd like to be ok with it.. I'm not.. and this doesn't mean I'm homophobic or anything.. I would just like my men to be and look like, men - even if it means that they're assholes, I mean, all guys are assholes, we have to accept that, but that's why we love 'em.... (...isn't it? you wouldn't want some wuss that you can just push around would you????)

Ergh.. aaaannnddd it's raining again.. time to take another nap hehe.. It's kinda nice with the house empty and all the lil kids off in Singapore...plus, no dad. =D Which makes things infinitely better.. This weekend should be a big fun one, for most people anyway. Either way, I am definitely looking forward to this weekend - will be spending it with my other half and some friends. I finally get a chance to party all night!!!

Anyhoo, my self-esteem is at an all time low hence me losing the motivation to eat and surfing the health section at msn..Lets take a look at... 6 Reasons Why You're Not Losing Weight.. hmmm....

-Weight Loss Wrecker #1: Your Couch. Beware, sofa spuds: Researchers at Deakin University in Australia found that people who watched between one and two-and-a-half hours of TV per day were 93 percent more likely to be overweight than those who watched less than an hour per day. So how much tv do YOU watch a day?? hmmm?? hehe to curb this they suggest that you just watch your fav show and then switch the tv off. or if you simply can't NOT watch tv, make sure ur doing something at the same time. Like exercising, chewing gum.. (knitting?) but whatever you do, do NOT snack while watching tv.

-Weight Loss Wrecker #2: Married Bliss. Not that any of us are married yet, but I guess you could connect it to if you have a steady boyfriend or girlfriend. You know what they say.. "a couple that eats together, stays together". haha. One way to curb this would be to join an exercise class with your other half.. or join a gym together.

-Weight Loss Wrecker #3: Being Stressed 24/7. That's pretty self-explanatory..You'd think that extra-frenetic days would kick you into calorie-burning overdrive. Nope. In fact, stress increases your body's production of a hormone called cortisol, which signals your body to hang on to weight and deposit more fat in your abdomen. (Belly fat is the worst kind to have; it's linked to diabetes, high cholesterol and other health problems.) So, I guess, just make sure that when u feel yourself getting stressed out, go out, talk to someone, take a walk, light a scented candle... chiiiilll....

-Weight Loss Wrecker #4: Date Night = Drink Night. Now, this probably wouldn't really apply to us living here in Brunei, but basically, if you are a drinker, it would be better to perhaps have small amounts daily rather than big amounts infrequently. And drinking hard liquor creates more abdominal fat than wine. So if you drink, wine is the way to go.. lol..

-Weight Loss Wrecker #5: Dark Winter Days. Again, not a big problem for us since we don't have seasons, BUT for those of us that are leaving to the UK for uni soon take note! Surveys have found that many people consume anywhere from a few hundred to 1,500 more calories per day in the winter months. That's especially true of people who experience seasonal affective disorder (SAD), characterized by low energy, sadness, irritability or fatigue during the winter months. Well, I guess the way to get past this would be to resist.... and to try and take in as much sunlight as you can.. =)

-Weight Loss Wrecker #6: Skimping on Sleep. In other words.. get lots of sleep!! Research at the University of Chicago has found that having a sleep debt wreaks havoc on your metabolism, making it easier for fat to sneak onto your bod. Sleep deprivation leads to an increase in insulin resistance (a condition in which your body doesn't use blood sugar properly, thereby increasing your risk of diabetes) and a decrease in levels of leptin (a hormone that appears to play a key role in satiety), explains Eve Van Cauter, Ph.D., one of the study's authors. These hormonal changes can promote weight gain. So try and sleep regularly.

And that's all from me, Dr. Nur.. hahaah... I'm going to go and get some rest.... Till next time =)

..don't look behind you..

Ergh..I am in the office now.. its 11:01 am.. just under an hour until I go for break.. The only reason why I'm typing up my blog right now is that I cannot concentrate.. at all.. for the past 20 mins or so I've been playing spider solitaire on the computer.. and listening to music.. while taking short breaks inbetween to try and actually do some work. Hopefully when I get back from lunch I'll be somewhat more.. "energized" LOL. I have a feeling this will turn out to be a quite serious post due to my mood today so please bear with me for the next few paragraphs or so.. lol.. =s

So, I was sorta thinking about this while in bed last night.. and have you ever just suddenly felt as though a big change is about to happen? Like you suddenly feel anxious about something.. something in the future but you have no idea what?? I am probably not making any sense right now, sometimes I hardly do, but I hope you get the gist of it.. (Note: this may perhaps do with my unstable emotions right now probably brought on by PMS, but it seems kinda significant...) It happened while I was in the car on the way out to dinner.. and I sorta felt as though I could feel a change happening within me, not in the physical sense but I guess maybe mentally or spiritually? Hmmmm.... perhaps most of this could be due to my first driving lesson (which is tomorrow btw!!) and the fact that I'll be going to uni soon... Now that I think about it.. I've been having this urge to have a complete change in my life so far.. perhaps to go along with this "mental or spiritual" change I might facing.. to date..I have decided to dye my hair a different colour.. I think I am going to give up my mac and convert to a PC.. (mainly because the entire system at my uni will be PC - but not that I'm complaining.. I want to play WOW!! i.e. world of warcraft)...

Speaking of which.. that game is damn addictive!! I would recommend everyone to try it.. If you're into RPG games and like fantasy.. THIS is the game for you.. Most of my friends would NOT see me as the gaming freak kinda person.. not to say that I am.. but this game is FUNNN!!! hehehe..

..what superhuman power would you have?..

So, if you could have any one superhuman power would you have? I actually used to think about this a lot when I was small.. (I'm a bit of a dreamer..) and I reckon I'd probably want to have the ability to fly.. or maybe the ability to become invisible.. Think about it.. if you were invisible.. you could get away with almost anything.. stealing..(hehe of course I wouldn't do that though.. but its just a thought..) hehe.. umm.. you could avoid certain people.. and for those kinky people out there.. you could do stuff with your hunny without anyone realising.. hahaha... don't you all wish you had super human powers now? hehe.. I need to get out more.. lol..

Anyhoo I think I'll ciao for now.. I'll probably post up some pictures that I took last night at Coffeezone.. =)

..what would you do?..

Okaaayy.. so, today has been a pretty long day.. i've been out all day hence, the reason why I'm writing up my blog at 10 at night. I am NOT happy about having to work tomorow morning because I'd rather stay up all night watching CSI on my laptop and plus, i just dont like waking up early anymore.. hehe..

Anyhooo... I'm still trying to get the hang of this whole blog site thing so try and be a lil patient with me while I figure everything out.. but for those observant people out there, you'll have noticed I've put in a comment bar thing! =) Yay to my baby for being the first to put up something there.. (he's my biggest and only fan) lol. What I plan to do sometime in the near future is regularly put up links with articles or anything that I happen to come across and think would be interesting as I probably wouldn't be able to write about everything in here.. Hope you enjoy the links I'll be putting up for today..


So, as you can probably tell, we went to watch Fast and the Furious 3: Tokyo Drift last night.. and it was pretty good.. liked the cars (although, I really don't know much about 'em) and I thought it was really cool how they did all that drifting. Haha I was saying to my sister that if one of these days you see one of those "L" cars drive by really crazily, it's probably me.. LOL..which reminds me, I really need to get moving with getting my drivers license but howwww leh? I have to go to work and all that..sigghh.. but yea, overall i thought it was a good movie but if i had to choose between tokyo drift and dragon tiger gate.. I think I would say I enjoyed dragon tiger gate a bit more..



With today being Sunday, and like all Sundays I found myself wandering aimlessly around the mall with my sisters after lunch I ended up splurging a bit on mainly books, magazines and comics (without which, I would not have a post for today..) and along with that I've come across quite a fewwww interesting tidbits..

First of all, if you are the type of person that enjoys blues/jazzy tunes, sorta like Norah Jones's stuff and you just loooveee someone with a smooooooth voice, then you have GOT to listen to singer/songwriter Sonya Kitchell. I suggest you listen to this perhaps after a long stressful day and if you feel like just chilling. She's got such a nice voice for someone who's only 16 yrs old.

Now for the stuff that kinda ties in with my title for today....this is mostly for the ladies, mind you, but I reckon the guys will find it just as interesting..

SO, what would you do if... you were a 30 year old virgin?

-Easy, according to the women of Japan. Basically to cut a long article short, in a workaholic place such as Japan, with career-driven women, it has become a big thing where women suddenly find themselves at 30 (or even older!) still being a virgin. Now, for all those religious people out there, of course there is nothing WRONG with being a virgin until you get married but as quoted in the article, "In the past, virginity was prized," says one volunteer. "But now, men prefer their girlfriends to know what they are doing in bed." Now this is all peachy keen if you are lucky enough to be seeing someone who prizes your virginity as much as you do.. but any woman will know that this is generally not the case. So it has come to the point where women are facing a dilemma as to where good girls can go to learn about "making love". The solution: create a volunteer sex corps which comprise of a secret group of men whose job it is to "make love" to these women. Mind you, the women do not pay a cent. The sex corp does not just deal with virgins either. They also deal with women who are in marriages where their husbands refuse to do it with them and generally go out and find mistresses and their wives are left to become a 'substitute mother'. Controversial no? I know all the feminists out there are seeing this as a completely chauvinistic "man" thing to do but apparently this volunteer service are mainly mae up of committed family men who participate on an anonymous basis and who are, for the most part, as deprived as the women that they set out to help. I could write more on this but it does leave some food for thought huh.... I'll leave you to come to your own conclusions...

Next up,
What would you do if... you had that sneaking suspicion that your hubby/boyfriend/long term partner was cheating on you????

-what exactly huh? if you had no evidence whatsoever...another easy solution.. hire someone to GET evidence. (say it with me everyone *muahahahaha* sneaky huh..) I'm not really sure where this is exactly in the world, but there are such things as "sex spies" where women, get paid to be a "honey trapper". Upon your demand, they come on to your guy to see if he'll cheat on you. As a person who gives a lot of weight to 'women's intuition', I think this is a completely valid way to find out whether your man is as faithful as he makes himself out to be. *Note: this of course should only be tried when and if you are seriously seriously in doubt with your boyfriend and NOT just as a test!* What these women do is that they pretend to be your boyfriend's ultimate woman. They act as though they are into the same things as them, or interested in things they are particularly passionate about,..etc. Of course they find out about all of this through you. They don't come onto the guy as though they are throwing themselves at him, but like I say, they make themselves out to be like their ultimate woman. (and if you are as possessive as I am, of course you're hoping YOU are his ultimate woman! hmph!) And depending on your man, he may or may not return her moves or invite her to some "unidentified place". The good thing about this service is that they do NOT sleep with your boyfriend but go to the point where that stage is imminent. They then let you know what's happened and upon your instructions, they follow up. But don't feel so smug about all this just yet, ladies. Women are just as vulnerable! They have men calling private investigators to do the same thing. According to a Frank Monte who has an investigation group that has been watching (and potentially busting) cheaters for nearly 40 years with about 30% of his business being husbands wanting to find out what their executive wives are upto.

Innnnnttteeerrreeessstttiiinnnggg... no? (oh, and if you all are wondering where i dug up all this stuff, it's from marie claire's May 2006 issue.. lol.. who knew you could find such interesting articles in these mags?

Well, I think I shall stop here for tonight. I was hoping to write more but I'm just tired and have to get ready for tomorrow. I will leave you with a few funny clips I came across while surfing on the web, mainly from youtube.com and yahoo. Just click on the link. ENJOY!

Matrix Ping Pong - Very clever!!

Scared Japanese Girls - Haha, brings a whole new meaning to the movie The Ring

Fish... hmm.. some people have too much time on their hands..

Till next time.. =)

..electric dragon drill..

So, it's Saturday morning and what am I doing? Haha I'm at the office "working" (I'm trying to, honestly I am!) while wondering why I am actually seriously thinking about starting a blog. To be honest, I have never really been fond of bloggers because, personally, I don't need to know what you've eaten in a day or whether you've seen (him/her/insert any applicable name here) and what conversations you've had complete with dialogue. But, after reading a few of my friends' blogs, i.e. REZA, I have to say, it's got me interested since he's got some pretty good thoughts down there. And for the most part, while I may include some of my personal life in this blog I promise it won't be along the lines of "today i had this to eat and then i went to this place and then that place and then i got into a fight and then....and then.....and then....." lol.

Anyhoo, if you're wondering about my title, "electric dragon drill" ahaha its because last night I watched the very awesome movie 'Dragon Tiger Gate', which, I have actually watched twice now, because it IS pretty good. Plus, the characters have these cool "power" moves like "golden mask" or "the black pagoda" or "eight staying (is it staving?) palms". Haha the names are quite funny if u think bout em for awhile.. but back to the movie, as all action movies are, storyline = average, action = of coz good lah.. but as some ppl pointed out throughout the whole movie, the characters would be wearing the exact same clothes as when they were young and they had the saaaaaaammmeee hairstyles.. I personally, don't like guys with long hair.. but its not like I'm complaining unlike some smelly people next to us who reminds me of the typical, ignorant kind of people that you seem to find here. What really annoyed me was the way that whenever they showed the temple, or the statue of the Buddha, they'd start snickering. And I ask you, what is so funny bout that?? And it wasn't just the people sitting next to me, it was people sitting on the other side of the row next to Didi (my sister) who, were probably smelly too. In fact, the whole cinema was smelly. People, if you know you're going to sweat, and you're not playing football or any sport for that matter, I beg of you, please do NOT wear those football jerseys as they do not absorb sweat. Resulting in one stinky person. Now imagine atleast a third or 2 thirds of the cinema consisting of smelly people wearing smelly football jerseys. *stink city*

*breathe in, breahe out*

Moving on and away from the B****fest up there..

While I was at the cinema last night, they were showing all the trailers for the upcoming movies and one movie that seemed really interesting to me was the movie with Keannu Reeves and Sandra Bullock in it. ('The Lake House' is it?) Basically, it's a romance film, and the tagline is (courtesy of imdb.com), 'what if you found the one you were meant for...but you lived two years apart?' Interesting..no? While this whole concept is entirely, quite impossible. It uses the whole theme of fate, which, I feel is entirely possible. People argue that you make your own fate, but at the same time it is because of who YOU are, (which, to a degree is uncontrollable) that decides what road you will take to get to your fate. How many times have you found it hard to put into words or explain logically why you made certain decisions? or how many times have people or a certain person come into your life, teaching you something that you probably never would have learnt unless you met that specific person?

While mulling over this whole idea of fate and whatnot, i remembered something that I read in a friends blog a few months ago, called 'synchronicities'. If you want to read the entire thing complete with possible scientific theories, or just in more detail i got all of this from http://www.crystalinks.com/synchronicity.html

"Synchronicities are people, places or events that your soul attracts into your life - to help you evolve or to place emphasis on something going on in your life. The more 'consciously aware' you become of how your soul creates - the higher your frequency goes and the faster your soul manifests. Each day your life will become filled with meaningful coincidences - synchronicities - that you have attracted - or created in the grid of your experiences in the physical.

There are no accidents - just synchroncity wheels - the gears of time - the wheels of time - the

wheel of karma - wheels within wheels - the alchemy of creation - the Philosopher's Stone - Sacred Geometry=SG=StarGate - evolution of consciousness.

Do be careful. Not all synchronicities are positive. Sometimes these lead to learning lessons - when you are deceived ito thinking that is road to take at that moment in time. This is not always the case - so do be careful. If you are dysfunctional - a drama person - your will attract - manifest dysfunctional peole and events.

Synchronicities can also go nowhere as they just occur in someone's life to make a point.
You must look at the bigger picture of the synchronicty - think outside the box - not at the actual event. Look at the underlying facts when the synchronicity occurs to be sure you know why you attracted that person/ situation into your life. "

Interesting huh? There's more. Here are a few examples of synchronicities:

-A well-known example of synchronicity involves plum pudding. It is the true story of the French writer Emile Deschamps who in 1805 is treated to some plum pudding by the stranger Monsieur de Fontgibu. Ten years later, he encounters plum pudding on the menu of a Paris restaurant, and wants to order some, but the waiter tells him the last dish has already been served to another customer, who turns out to be M. de Fontgibu. Many years later in 1832 Emile Deschamps is at a diner, and is once again offered plum pudding. He recalls the earlier incident and tells his friends that only M. de Fontgibu is missing to make the setting complete, and in the same instant the now senile M. de Fontgibu enters the room by mistake.

-You meet someone who interests you and touches your soul. Through synchronicity - that person seems to come into your life over and over again. You begin to feel a destiny with that person. You begin to think with your heart instead of your head. You connect with that person. In some cases the karma between the two people is positive - but in many cases you have attracted that person into your life for a learning lesson whether you are aware of it or not.

- There are in your life when financial difficulties seem to have no end. Yet there is always enough money for basic expenses...rent, food, utilities. Finances seem to appear where and when they are needed.

- You walk into a book store not knowing what to buy, and the book you need falls from a shelf and practically hits you over the head.

- You feel depressed and can't find focus in your life and the next person you talk you says something that brings you the guidance you need.

- Everyone's favorite.....You drive to a place where parking is "next to impossible" and someone pulls out of a parking spot or it is just waiting for you.

Although scientists out there are very critical when it comes to claims such as these, I have to say, that I am a very firm believer. Because I genuinely feel that there are some people in the world that have been put here for me to meet to either test me or teach me or in some way affecting my life whether it be a positive or negative outcome. I have come across objects such as books or jewellrey that if I had not bought at that specific time, I would not have seen ever again. Or in some cases, have been drawn to something so much and felt so differently about it, yet didn't get it and until now even after trying and going to the same place over and over again, have never seen it again.

While yes, these ideas of fate and synchronicities are not entirely explainable, there are many things out there that science cannot entirely explain. Hehe at this point in time I must admit I am not much of a scientist nor am I fond or very much interested in science. =)

Haha it is now 11:05 and I've got less than an hour of work left. Yay! my weekend can officially begin. And to think this has only been my FIRST week of work. hah! O well.. that's how the cookie crumbles. Until next time.

=)

p.s. I'll try and put up pictures soon.. i know it probably looks quite boring now..